Nursery (building bond with a baby brother)

Preparing nursery is one of nicer thing while I'm waiting for my little guy :) . This time (us you remember third time) I want to make some more effort in preparing. My situation this time is different, becouse with me (and husband) are waiting us well my older kids and I want to involve them in preparation.
They are excited alredy but with making something and helping I hope they felt important and  that they started their journey of becoming older brother and sister, that they started building bond with their little baby brother.
This is also idea for how to make nursery in budget. I've bought just few new things like cot, chest of drawer, materials for decorations, changing mat cover, bouncer. I haven't bought a lot of new cloths or toys, most things I've got from opshops or after my older kids, I've got some things also from friends. As an experience mum is easier to choose, what is really important in nursery I have to admit :)

So what exactly we have done?

• We've prepared a cot 

       

• We've made decoration

        I've asked kids to make drawings for their little brother whatever they wanted.

        Thay have sewed little hanging toys which we first had choosed in the shop.

        Then we've made hand printed animals :) and I've sewed bunting

• We've put clothes into a drawer

When baby will born kids with dad will finish preparations :)

This is mobile that Klara has made for Kornel

And this is how they had met little Kornel and me in the hospital.

I should have been published this post long time ego, but last couple month has been bit crazy :) Now we back on tracks so I hope there will be more time for me to write. 

Mental health

Happy mum with happy kids :) 

Last week I was in the hospital for rutine visit. Between some magazines my daughter had found a brochure and she handed it to me and said ' Mumy look somthing for you and new baby'. I looked at the title 'A guide to emotional health and wellbeing during pregnancy and early parenthood' I thought hmmm.. interesting.

At home I started to read and I was so surprise, that this kind of information are in the hospital us a brochure, it was good surprise. I thought if only I knew that when I had my first baby, it would be so much better for me, so easier. I wouldn't have felt so lonely with my thoughts, I would seek for some help and advise. I  know that you are very curious now ;) what the... Was in that brochure?

Well it was about negative feelings that you may experience during pregnancy and early parenthood, but the most important thing was that this is ok and you don't have to feel guilty. 

Sometimes we and people surranding us say only about joy and happiness because of baby. No one seems to notice and acquiescence these negative feelings like anxieties, stress, panic, anger. Even magazines and media promotes happy, sweet and lovely time during pregnancy and early parenthood. We can starting to feel guilty, that something is wrong with us becouse we are not that happy like we shoud. 

The brochure olso was about how to care about ourself and that is very important to care about our wellbeing us much us of a baby, how to preper for changing, how to help our partners which sometimes completely doesn't understand what is happening with us or with them. For dad's is olso not easy, they have to juggle job, parenting and being there for us, sometimes they could felt helpless or stress becouse of not knowing what to do. Sometimes is our job to show them how to cope with new situation, but what if we are feeling bad? So that is why knowledge of that new situation( becoming a parent) from different directions is so important, it only will help. 

Remember 'Happy mum means happy baby and happy relationship' :) 

I will make a scan of brochure, so if someone would like a copy let me know :) 

Pregnant for third time...

                                                                   Photo taken by my son :) 

Today I would like to write about pregnancy. Well, I'm pregnant third time and every single one was different.
First time was very exited because everything was so unknown. I wasn't sure about a lot of things, is that ok that my belly hurts? Are they a baby movements? What should I eat? Can I ride a bike?  And so long... Only what I could do was to trust my doctor and hoping for the best. During pregnancy I have been few times in the hospital. Now when I'm thinking about those days I'm not sure if that was really necessary...

Second time was bit better becouse I have known already more. So I knew that some pain is ok and doesn't heve to mean that something is wrong. Unfortunetly my doctor was doing everything to put me into hospital, finally I heve anded there couple of times, but still in my opinion unnecessary. While I was at the hospital I was taking only basic medicines like folic acid, so what you think? Rather nothing was wrong. But my doctor tried threatened me that I could went into labour any time and that it was necessary that I stayed in the hospital. 

Those two times I felt like a incubator, doctors didn't care aboute me, they didn't ask if it's ok to do this or that, they just assumed that they can and that I didn't mind. 

Now I'm pregnant third time and my experience in that matter is huge I exactly know what I need and how I would like to be treat. This is also some kind of new experience becouse first time I'm pregnant in Australia and I have to say that a lot of things are different here. I won't write about all of them, but only one: No one treats me like a incubator, doctors asks how I feel, if it is ok to do this or that. Of course not everything is ideal, sometimes I thing that they are to relax and maybe they should be more concerned, but on the other hand if everything is ok ?  

From that place I would like to thank everyone my friends from Australia and Poland, my family, my kids, my husband, teachers from kinda and school, strangers  for their kindness, concerns, help, for all those beautiful words, for their joy because of new baby. All that was such a great experience, gave me strength in difficult moments, when I felt so bad, when I felt down... THANK YOU!!! :)